The transition into a new year always feels like a ripe time to make drastic changes to my life. While I have never been big onNew Years resolutions, I will never deny my desire for a new year to bring new growth. Whether that is improving my diet, removing myself from toxic environments, improving my self-care practices, or even doing moreresearch about therapy, I know there is a lot of self-improvement to be done.
That being said, none of these changes are easy to make. The emotional and mental ones, in particular, actually wind up being just as hard (if not harder than) the physical ones. And an aspect of life that I think we can all agree is difficult to change is asking for and granting forgiveness.
AsMichael Stevens writes, “Being forgiven feels good, but letting things go feels even better. Holding grudges takes more energy than allowing yourself to moveforward.”
Forgiveness is not only important for the person being forgiven, but it is also essential for the one doing the forgiving. Setting yourself free from pain or disappointment caused by others is anactof self-care; you are harboring that weight just as much as the transgressor. But again, none of this is easy. And sometimes you need a little added help. Enter these six songs about forgiveness, apologizing, and movingforward.
Music, specifically songs about forgiveness, can be medicine. Sure we blast tunes when we are having a great timewith our best friends, but we also lean on them to get through our worst times. Sometimes, it is difficult to conjure up the right words to share with a person expressing your forgiveness of them or requesting forgiveness from them, so it only makes sense that we turn to songs about forgiveness.
Fortunately, over the past few decades, an array of amazing artists have churned out songs that span genres.Regardlessof whether you are a fan of pop andhip-hoporrock’n’rolland musicaltheater, there aredefinitelya few songs out there for you.
“Hello” by Adele
Hello from the other side
I must've called a thousand times
To tell you I'm sorry
For everything that I've done
But when I call you never
Seem to be home
“Hello” should also be on a list of best songs to loudly (and in my case, badly)sing along to in the shower. In addition to the song’s beautiful production and Adele’s booming, beautiful voice, the lyrics are extraordinarily powerful.
Yougottago and get angry at all of my honesty
You know I try but I don't do too well with apologies
I hope I don't run out of time, could someone call a referee?
'Cause I just need one more shot at forgiveness
I know you know that I made those mistakes maybe once or twice
By once or twice I mean maybe a couple of hundred times
So let me, oh let me redeem, oh redeem, oh myselftonight
'Cause I just need one more shot at second chances
Don’t let theviralityof this song fool you, J. Biebs’ 2015 megahit is filled with lyrics that actually pack a big emotional punch. In them, headmitshis wrongdoings and begs for redemption. While it is safe to assume that Bieber was singing about a romantic relationship, thisactof humility is necessary to moveforwardin all kinds of relationships—whether you fear you have disappointed a friend, a parent, a child, or a co-worker.
Do I find it so hard
When I know in my heart
I'm letting you down everyday
Letting you down everyday
Why do I keep on running away?
Look, I apologize, often womanize
Took for my child to be born
See through a woman's eyes
Few people know more about the importance of songs about forgiveness than rap mogulJay Z. In fact, he made a whole album chocked full of them! One of those songs is “4:44” in which he openlyadmitstobeing unfaithfulto his partner—apologies are weavedin almost every stanza. And while we will never know what happened behind closed doors of his relationship,Jay Z’s public admission of guilt was an admirable step for such a monumental figure and role model.
“How to Save a Life”—The Fray
Where did I go wrong?
I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
Thisuber-popularsong wasoriginally inspiredby a troubled teenager who The Fray’s lead singer Isaac Slade met while working as a mentor. Today, the song is a global anthem for anyone going through difficult times themselves or grappling with the difficulty of supporting adepressed friendor family member.
“If I Could Turn Back Time”—Cher
Too strong to tell you I was sorry
Too proud to tell you I was wrong
I know that I was blind, and darling
If I could turn back time
If I could find a way
I'd take back those words that hurt you
And you'd stay
Cher is a living goddess and must be protected at all costs! She is not, however, perfect. In “If I Could…”, Cher longs for a clock that will take her back in time—back before she made mistakes, and back before she caused another person pain. The reason this is one of her most well-known songs is because it is one of the most relatable. We have all wanted to take back our words or actions at some point or another. Since this is not possible just yet,admittingto those mistakeswill continue to be the first step.
“It’s Quiet Uptown”—Hamilton the Broadway Musical
There are moments that the words don't reach
There's a grace too powerful to name
We push away what we can never understand
We push away the unimaginable
They are standing in the garden
Standing thereside by side
She takes his hand
It's quiet uptown
Forgiveness, can you imagine?
Forgiveness, can you imagine?
This track is one of my favorites from themulti-award-winningBroadway musical Hamilton. It comes at a delicate time in the musical’s narrative (I promise I won’t give any spoilers) when a character has to grant the ultimate forgiveness to a person she loves. Use this song as a “sorry” to all the musicaltheaterlovers in your life and there is no doubt in my mind that they will get the message.