How I Stay in the Present While in Therapy
Practicing mindfulness in therapy is like my own personal girl power session.
When I started seeing my therapist about two years ago I was at the peak of my anxiety. I was running from my past, afraid for my future and almost entirely ignoring the present. Making the decision to take my therapy seriously was one of the best things that ever happened to me. Together, we spent our sessions sifting through my harbored feelings. I was able to make my peace and release a lot of the shame and regret I'd been carrying for years.
It was after I made extreme emotional progress through traditional therapy that I became acquainted with mindfulness techniques and The Law of Attraction. I instantly felt caught in the cross-hairs of clinical psychology and my newfound understanding of the universe. Law of Attraction is how the universe operates, and the core tenant is that what you focus on gains momentum. Therefore, according to the law of attraction focusing on my painful memories would only keep them active in my experience. I had so much love and appreciation for both methods but I couldn't overlook how the two techniques clashed. So, I decided to cherry pick and combine the aspects of emotional self-care that I enjoyed, the mindfulness, law of attraction, no pills, and continued therapy sessions.
You may be wondering if I feel so much healthier why I'd even go to therapy anymore. Well, there have been times when I thought about ending my sessions. But, I go because I still like it. I appreciate the cathartic feeling of a full hour dedicated to me. I like being completely open with someone who is legally bound to my privacy and to whom I have no personal connection. So here are the steps I took to find balance in my sessions. They're steps you too can try out.
First, decide if you feel the intention of your therapy has been fulfilled.
Next, decide if you want to continue using your therapist as a resource.
Then, talk to your therapist and get their input about your desire to shift the focus of your sessions.
And finally, set the intention for each session to keep your topics, and language in the present.
Today, I use my therapy sessions as a sounding board for my life in the present. I spend my time talking about the positive in my life and how excited I am about the things I'm accomplishing. I feel good. My therapist has always been one of my biggest cheerleaders so she's totally on board. Every now and then she adds some clinical insights and asks questions that open up deeper discussion but it's all still very much in the present. I've even left her office with excellent inspiration for the company which turned into big financial wins. Mixing mindfulness and my spirituality makes our time feel like my own personal girl power session and I can think of few things more refreshing and empowering.